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Offline Antiaparteid

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Polygamy and step-mothers and children
« on: September 07, 2012, 07:30:07 AM »
A muslim man has 3 wives and children with all. Then he divorces one wife and gets custody of the children aged 10 and 11. He has a house with each wife. So now, do the children live alone in one house while the father is spending time with one of the other wives? Or does he ask one wife to look after the children? Or does he get someone to look after them? Or does he take them with him when he goes to visit the other wives? What are the rulings on a situation like this.

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Re: Polygamy and step-mothers and children
« Reply #1 on: September 14, 2012, 12:47:11 PM »
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I knew that there wouldn't be an answer. You see, Islam doesn't have all the answers to social issues, to issues that arise though living according to the sharia. Islam doesn't make provisions for step children. Islam doesn't care about how children are affected by their parent's actions.

Luckily this scenario doesn't usually exist in real life. Luckily many muslims are human and thoughtful and caring enough to have monogamous and healthy marriages where they raise their children in a loving home. Luckily most muslims know that the quran did not command: Though shall have love-less or/and polygamous marriages and not consider how your childre or society is affected by your actions.

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Re: Polygamy and step-mothers and children
« Reply #2 on: September 14, 2012, 02:22:06 PM »
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A muslim man has 3 wives and children with all. Then he divorces one wife and gets custody of the children aged 10 and 11. He has a house with each wife. So now, do the children live alone in one house while the father is spending time with one of the other wives? Or does he ask one wife to look after the children? Or does he get someone to look after them? Or does he take them with him when he goes to visit the other wives? What are the rulings on a situation like this.

The husband doesn't always have to have a single seperate house for each wife.  I don't think this is a madatory rule, even though this is how the Prophet, peace be upon him, had it with his wives.  So to answer you question, it all depends on the way the relationship is between the husband and the wives, and the wives and the children of the other women.  They can make those arrangements.  And in all cases, he and everyone in the family must always be fair and just as much as they can:

"O ye who believe! stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to God, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for God can best protect both..... (The Noble Quran, 4:135)"

"God doth command you to render back your Trusts to those to whom they are due; And when ye judge between man and man, that ye judge with justice: Verily how excellent is the teaching which He giveth you! For God is He Who heareth and seeth all things. (The Noble Quran, 4:58)"

".....Help ye one another in righteousness and piety, but help ye not one another in sin and rancour: fear God: for God is strict in punishment. (The Noble Quran, 5:2)"

"O ye who believe! stand out firmly for God, as witnesses to fair dealing, and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just: that is next to piety: and fear God. For God is well-acquainted with all that ye do. (The Noble Quran, 5:8 )"

"God does not forbid you from showing kindness and dealing justly with those who have not fought you about religion and have not driven you out of your homes. God loves just dealers. (The Noble Quran, 60:8 )"

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Re: Polygamy and step-mothers and children
« Reply #3 on: September 14, 2012, 04:52:44 PM »
Righteousness is not that you turn your faces toward the east or the west, but [true] righteousness is [in] one who believes in Allah , the Last Day, the angels, the Book, and the prophets and gives wealth, in spite of love for it, to relatives, orphans, the needy, the traveler, those who ask [for help], and for freeing slaves; [and who] establishes prayer and gives zakah; [those who] fulfill their promise when they promise; and [those who] are patient in poverty and hardship and during battle. Those are the ones who have been true, and it is those who are the righteous." (2;177)
"And they ask you about orphans. Say, "Improvement for them is best. And if you mix your affairs with theirs - they are your brothers. And Allah knows the corrupter from the amender. And if Allah had willed, He could have put you in difficulty. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise." (2:220)
"Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful." (4:30)
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Re: Polygamy and step-mothers and children
« Reply #4 on: September 15, 2012, 06:59:46 AM »
Lol! Now all of a sudden co-wives can live together!  What's next? You gonna tell me that there is a surat of hadith that specifically instructs muslim women to go about in search of married men? That it is sunat for sisters in islam to befriend each other just to stab each other in the back?