In this life, we judge others negatively (even by not speaking to them). We think about them, we call them names--we judge negatively.
I've know someone who was an atheist before he became a Muslim who found more comfort in atheism. This person had a mental illness known as social anxiety. Social anxiety is when you fear everyone's judgement of you and you are nervous in social situations. It is not something rational nor normal. The only cure for it is to go through cognitive behavioral therapy. The atheist was afraid of people judging him as pathetic because he gets too nervous and shaky in social situations. He is unable to find a girlfriend or mate because of his nervousness and he was unable to find a job.
The Atheist found it more comfortable to be an atheist than a Muslim and that is why it took him so long to become a submitter to Allah. As an atheist, he didn't care about anyone's judgement because he was able to tell himself: "The universe will cease to exist and all will be forgotten". This means that there is no reason to care about anyone's negative judgement of you in this life as everything will be forgotten. It was actually his psychologist who asked him of his faith and told him that on his belief system, negative judgement won't matter as everyone will turn to dust and bones and they will forget about you completely! The universe itself will die out.
The Atheist found that quote extremely comforting as he didn't care about anything in the world. He was simple, he lived his life. He realized that everyone's judgement doesn't matter and fear is irrational as everything will cease to exist one day.
But there was a dark thing going on in his heart. He was uncertain whether there is an afterlife. If there was an afterlife, then all WON'T be forgotten as everyone never really dies. He was on the verge of accepting Islam but he couldn't because it would bring his social anxiety back.
His logic is that since everyone will be resurrected, then people won't forget about his negative judgement and he will be remembered forever. People will remember how pathetic he was in this life forever. So he can't find Islam comfortable and it pushes him away from Islam.
This is a really big problem that I think we should address in this research center. We should prove that in the Quran, paradise will be a place where everyone will forget about your life in the temporary world and won't care except for your religious deeds.
We all know that NOTHING in this world matters besides your relationship with Allah and your deeds. We all know that your wealth, your relationships, your life besides your religious deeds will be forgotten.
I think it would be beneficial to write something explaining to him that all will be forgotten in Islam just like atheism, but except your deeds towards Allah. And also it would be beneficial to describe paradise to him and how there will not be any negative judgement therein.
