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women are captives??????
« on: December 28, 2013, 02:36:13 AM »
what is the meaning of the hadith are women captives to mean according to word Awan in the hadith

'Amr bin Al-Ahwas Al-Jushami (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he had heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying on his Farewell Pilgrimage, after praising and glorifying Allah and admonishing people, "Treat women kindly, they are like captives in your hands; you do not owe anything else from them. In case they are guilty of open indecency, then do not share their beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, do not have recourse to anything else against them. You have rights over your wives and they have their rights over you. Your right is that they shall not permit anyone you dislike to enter your home, and their right is that you should treat them well in the matter of food and clothing".

[At- Tirmidhi].

Arabic/English book reference    : Book 1, Hadith 276

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Re: women are captives??????
« Reply #1 on: April 02, 2014, 07:37:29 AM »
Creator of man and woman who is best aware of their natures. On giving a little thought
it will become clear that the moral system recommended by the Lord
God can never be the cause of the overlordship of one group to the
detriment of the other. The problem is then not of the moral system as
such. It is more a problem of the type of criterion that is used to
measure it.
The Qur'an teaches that it is the cooperation and mutuality
between man and woman which works as the foundational basis for
the very existence and furtherance of the institution of the family.
Indeed, the Qur'an formulated laws on the ground that to ensure the
permanence of any moral code it is necessary that the institution of
the family is itself manifested in good order. It is possible, however,
that those who believe in the ideology of the necessity of the collapse
of the family, will find the Qur'anic laws unacceptable. But those
who think over the existence of human society which is grounded in
morality can never say that even one among the Qur'anic laws is in
favour of male domination.
The Qur'an teaches that in the preservation of the solid edifice
of the family, both the man and the woman are to play their respective
roles. It is from this foundational basis that the Qur'anic laws
concerning their rights, responsibilities and duties emanate. The
Qur'anic vision with regard to man and woman may be summarised
as follows:
One : Both man and woman originated from the same soul.
They are like the two sides of a coin. Although both are independent,
it is their mutuality which gives each its fullness.
Two : Neither can a woman be like a man nor a man be like a
woman. Each has its very own different, yet, potentially mutual,
Three : Both man and woman have then rights. However those
rights are to be attained not through violence. It must be through mutual
Four : Both have their respective duties. It is only by virtue of
fulfilling these duties that both the individual and the society can survive.
Five : It is against the very law of nature for a man to undertake
the responsibilities of a woman and for a woman to try to fulfill those
of a man. Each has to perform its own duty.
Six : It should not be at the expense of the other’s rights that
each seeks to fulfill one’s obligations and enjoy one’s own rights.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because
Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because
they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women
are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what
Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye
fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to
share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly), but if they return to
obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is
Most High, Great (above you all).” (H.Q. 4:34)
“Divorced women shall wait concerning for three monthly
periods. And it is not lawful for them to hide what Allah hath created
in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their
husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they
wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the
rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a
degree over them and Allah is Exalted in Power.” (H.Q. 2:228)
These have been the verses quoted by those who accuse the
Qur'an of being influenced by male chauvinism. It is claimed that these
verses make it clear that the Qur'an has been a product of the malechauvinistic
tendencies of the Arabs. What, then, is the reality?
In the first verse quoted above, the Qur'an says that man is
Qawwam over woman. In Arabic the word Qawwam or Qayyim
refers to the one who looks after the affairs of a person or an enterprize
and supervises over their necessary requirements. Indeed, it implies
more of a responsibility than an obligation. The said verse then
summarises that the control over the institution of the family which
includes, the affairs of woman and children or the responsibility for
their well-being dwells upon man.
The family is an institution. It is a noble institution that grants
peace and tranquility to both halves of the soul. In fact, it is the family
that forms the most important of all social institutions. It will by
acknowledged by all that any institution will require an able head for
its growth, development and the resolution of its various problems. To
any versed even in the most basic lessons of management, it is common
knowledge that any firm, no matter howsoever good its credentials, is
bound to wither away in the absence of a controlling head of affairs.
Then is there not the necessity of a head for the family wherein the
very foundation of all morality in society is being formulated? It is
indeed, vital that there must be an overseer for properly carrying out
all the incumbent responsibilities that arise while maintaining a family
right from bringing up childrenand giving them all the guidance required
for making them responsible members of the society. Otherwise, total
anarchy and chaos will be the result.
It is clear, therefore, that there must be a person to assume the
leadership of the family. It would be more correct to search for the
one who is really more capable for this than to ask the question as to
who is more deserving. It should either be that both assume the
leadership jointly or that the woman assume the leadership of the family
herself. Let us approach the problem from the unprejudiced, basic
premise that the man is to be entrusted with that responsibility only if
both these options are impracticable.
It is more dangerous for an institution to have two leaders than
for it to be without any. It is commonplace for the very institution
themselves to fall apart in all the cases wherein the enterprise, previously
handled by the father before his death, is not justly approportioned off
or is not passed on to any one of his children for its proper functioning.
In institutions where there exists more than one leader, the institution
is wrecked by the power tussle and other problems related to leadership.
Even if it does not fall apart, the ‘products’ that come forth will be
defective in some way. So is the case with the family. If both are
made the leaders, there will be a dichotomy of views concerning their
approaches to the resolution of problems. This will result in a jostling
for power and leadership. This will then, in turn, result in a disturbance
family atmosphere. Children brought up in such a family atmosphere
will become subject to mental tensions and imbalances. This will then
be the cause of the moral laxity of the next generation.
Can a woman really assume control of the family? Or is that
responsibility to be entrusted to man? The answer to this question lies
in the counter question. ‘Is it intellect or emotion that is necessary to
control the family?’ If it is intellect, then the control of the family is to
be entrusted to man, if emotions, then to woman.
The physical make- up as well as the mind set of both man and
woman are so constituted that they are enabled in carrying out the
function that they have been assigned. By physical make-up is not
meant just the external differences. Indeed, it is not just the skeletal
frame but even the muscular system is so constituted that they allow
for each sex to carry out properly the role that has been assigned to
them by nature. It is a fact that the famous statement of Hawlock
Ellis, the renowned sexologist, that, “The man is a male to the very tips
of his fingers and the woman a female to the very tips of her toes” is
one hundred percent correct.
While the frame of man are well suited for hard labour, those
of woman are suited for the conditions of pregnancy. While the muscles
in man are fit for the demands of hard labour, the woman’s body is
made up of fat that provides it with its distinctive softness. The hands
of man that are so suited for labour and toil! The hands of woman
that are so suited to the purposes of fondling and petting! So goes the
differences in physical constitution.
In conferring upon woman a body suited for motherhood and
upon man with one suited for labour they surely must have been
provided with qualities of the mind compatible with their respective
functions as well. Compassion, consideration and a host of emotions
form the specialities of the female mind. It is, indeed, one that is
dominated by emotions. Studies have revealed that the intellectual
abilities which girls display during childhood are dimmed with the onset
of adolescence. This means that the mind, too, undergoes a change
with the preparation for motherhood. What is the image that presents
itself before us whenever we seek to describe the woman’s mind? A
tender heart, a delicate mind, a highly sensitive nature, a continuous
gurgling well spring of love, an upturned sense of emotionality .... each
one of these makes it clear that woman’s nature is, indeed, an emotional
one. But what of the man’s mind? Thoughtful response, masculine
conduct, pragmatic disposition, action based on thought. These constitute
the typical male mind. These are bound to contemplation and thought.
In short, therefore, the man’s mind has been so constituted that it
supplements earning and responsible work.
(This is a general appraisal. Are there not women who can
rule, judge cases, lead wars and exert themselves for a living? Are there not men who can cook, look after children with care and involve
themselves in governing the affairs of the family? The definite answer
is ‘yes’. But they are but exceptions. Indeed, they belong to their own
sex only by virtue of their physical Qualities. As far as their behaviour,
their methods and their roles are concerned they tend to be closer to
the opposite sex.)
It is his ability to undertake action that is in conformance to
thought which makes the man fit to assume the guardianship of the
family. Indeed, that is but the very fulfillment of the role which his
physical endowment has thrust upon him. He must work for a living;
must earn money to feed the family - it is in his hands that all control of
the affairs of the family has been placed. Indeed, this responsibility
makes it an incumbent duty for him to determine and chart out the
appropriate means of living for that institution and of all the members
within it and to supervise all financial matters that relate to the process.
It is for this reason that the Qur'an, while stating that ‘men have control
over the affairs of women’, has also emphasized that the reason for
this is that “Allah has granted more strength to one above the other
and because they spend out of their wealth on them.” (Qur'an 4:34).
This is the reason why it is said that the Qur'an, by placing the affairs
of the family upon the man, has conferred a great responsibility upon
By granting man the control over the affairs of woman and
over family it does not mean that he may become a virtual dictator
over them. Indeed, leadership itself becomes ennobling and enlivening
only in the context of cooperation and mutual consultation. A truly
satisfying family life becomes possible only when the man, who is
entrusted with the leadership of the family, accepts the Qur'anic
recommendation of “treating the women with kindness” as well as the
advice of the Prophet to the effect that “he is the best amongst you
who treat best the members of his household.”
It is again on this basis that the Qur'an stated that, “men are a
degree above the women” (2:228). This is a status that is achieved by
way of accepting the financial burden of the family. Indeed, that status
is the veritable guardianship of the family itself.
It may be supposed that a woman with a high salary is entrusted
with the leadership of the family. Here, it is possible that the protection
of the family will not be felt to be a difficult task in the early period of
the marriage. However, with the onset of pregnancy and motherhood
it becomes impossible for her to carry on the burden of leadership. In
short, therefore, the Qur'an, by entrusting the leadership of the family
upon the man, has actually sheltered the woman from the same. No
one who is versed in the nature of womanhood will take a stand against
the Qur'an in this issue.


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