assalamu alaikum,
why did muhammad saws inform others and want others to marry young virgin girls as well?
bukhari 6387: My father died and left behind seven or nine daughters, and I married a woman. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Did you get married, O Jabir?" I replied, "Yes." He asked, "Is she a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "She is a matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a virgin girl so that you might play with her and she with you (or, you might make her laugh and she make you laugh)?" I said, "My father died, leaving seven or nine girls (orphans) and I did not like to bring a young girl like them, so I married a woman who can look after them." He said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you."
bukhari 5080: When I got married, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?'
the same hadith is recorded in these places making it very veru authentic sahih and mutawatir: Sahih Muslim 715 f , bukhari 2967, Sahih Muslim 715 h,
so why did muhammad want others to marry young girls and not widows, didnt muhammad himself only marry 1 young girl and the rest of them were many of them widows, so why was he confused as to why he married a widow, when marrying a widow is what was done by rasulallah and is a good deed in islam, and why did he want him to marry a young one
